why cant i forget him?

the article :

Do you think it was true love if you can't forget someone after 9 years? I've read dozens of blogs on the internet that say "You'll forget your ex after however many months". Some say a month, two months, a year, 3 years, whatever. But I think about my ex everyday and it's been more than 9 years now. Why can't I get this guy out of my head? I've tried everything, to getting rid of all of his things, to having a little "ceremony" where I told him goodbye (I also read this on the internet that it helps. I've dated other men, but have never been able to find true happiness since I was with "the one".

Let me tell you about him. We were in love in high school and halfway through college. We never fought, and he was so passionate. Everything in our world was heavenly. We talked about marriage, but nothing official. He then transferred to a university that was a few states away from me. At first we called, but slowly we just lost contact. My parents were never crazy about him, so at the time I didn't pursue it and basically let him go. Now it's nine years later and I have missed him everyday.

I have just found out through a mutual friend that he has just moved back close to my town, but he has a girlfriend. My first instinct is try to go see him, but I really don't want to do anything to upset his life. Why can't I just forget and move on? I want so badly just to forget him - remove him from my heart and memory. What is wrong with me?

my comment :

I  have a several ways , first you don’t thing about your beautiful memory with him because it make you remember him always. Thing about a bad memory with him, don’t call him again. Forget him , forget your memory.  And try to speak with your heart  that he isn’t your true love.  Second, try to looking for the activity, such as shopping, visit your friend, gathering with family or whatever that spend your time. And third try to open your heart to other men.. don’t be surrender . try try and try. If he is your true love he will come back again with you. But the reality he was with other girl . and you still stuck in him. What a pitty you are.. he was happy with his new life, and you still sadly thinking about him. Actually, just ourself  that handling it all. As the proverb says “where there is a will there is away .

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